Treat Them Like Gentiles and Tax Collectors

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If you have spent time reading the Bible, you might be familiar with the story in Matthew 18:15-17. Jesus is talking to his disciples and this is what he says,

If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

This passage is often cited in discussions about church order and discipline. Most of the time we use it to justify turning someone out of the church. But we are wrong when we do that. Here’s why.

Order and organization matters in the gospels. Take a look at what comes before and after this story in Matthew’s gospel. Here is Matthew 18:1-14 and here is Matthew 18:18-34. The writers didn’t merely record events in chronological order. A simple comparison of the four gospels shows us that. The gospel writers organized events and grouped incidents together to make important theological points. They want to help their readers understand who Jesus is and what he means for us and the world. We do the gospel writers a disservice when we ignore their careful and intentional organization and structure.

Right before this passage (Matt 18:15-17) are  Jesus’ warnings about the necessity to avoid being a stumbling block for anyone. Next is the parable of the shepherd who leaves 99 sheep to search to one lost sheep. Right after this passage, Jesus tells Peter we are to forgive members of the church seventy seven times. And then Jesus tells the parable of the slave who is forgiven by his master but refuses to forgive his debtors.  Lots of stories about the importance of forgiveness. Verses 15- 17 are surrounded by teachings about forgiveness. Those teachings on forgiveness need to inform our understanding of verses 15-17.

Sometimes we think the story we are looking at today lets us stop forgiving after three tries. However that interpretation doesn’t really fit well with the stories and parables that come before and after.

Here’s my other interpretive question. Verse 17 tells us to treat  an “offender” as a Gentile and a tax collector.  So, exactly how did Jesus treat Gentiles and tax collectors?  Jesus heals the daughter of the Canaanite woman. He eats with sinners and tax collectors. He heals the Centurion’s servant. He calls a tax collector to be his disciple.

Jesus repeatedly invited tax collectors and Gentiles into the kingdom of God.

To “let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector” doesn’t mean wash our hands of them. It means we need to continue to  reach out to those with whom we have a conflict.  We must continue inviting them into the fellowship of the kingdom of God.

This is really difficult work. I’m sure you know that. To remain in relationship with someone with whom we have a disagreement is hard. To remain in relationship with someone who has sinned against us is even more difficult.

It seems to me, one of the things the church is supposed to do is to be a community that never gives up on each other. We’re not to push people out because they are difficult or annoying or wrong or sinners. The church is to continually seek reconciliation. We are to be the visible witness of the steadfast love of God.

The church is called to be a community of faith, of love and of care for each other. This doesn’t mean that no one ever sins against another person. This doesn’t mean that we don’t have disagreements. This doesn’t mean that any behavior or action is fine. It certainly doesn’t mean this is easy.

What it does mean is that we don’t give up on each other. Just as God doesn’t give up on us.

 

I’d like to know, what do you think?

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14 Responses to “Treat Them Like Gentiles and Tax Collectors”

  1. Beloved Spear Says:

    Exactly right! It baffles me how, knowing the context of Christ’s teaching and ministry, we can assume this means anything other than to press forward towards our “enemies” in love.

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  4. Daniel Says:

    I stumbled across your article while researching church discipline. I think you present an interesting point, but I think you have missed out on some important context in other parts of the Bible.

    1 Corinthians 5 / 2 Corinthians 2
    Paul instructs the Corinthian church to turn him over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the Day of the Lord. Christians should not associate or socialize (even eat) with the brother in Christ who fits these characteristics.

    Romans 16:17-20
    Watch those who cause dissension and stay away from them.

    2 Thessalonians 3:6-15
    The brothers who did not work were not to be provided food rations. Further, there is a general instruction to not associate with brothers that are unruly or who reject the instructions in the word of God so that the brother will be put to shame. The brother is to be strongly warned.

    • Nancy Says:

      Yes, the verses you cite are also in the Bible. And I could respond by citing Galatians 6:1-2 and 1Thessalonians 5:14-22.
      But your comments raise a larger and important consideration, what do we do when the Bible appears to contradict itself? How do we know, in this example, when to remain in fellowship with someone and when not to? There is a lot to think about here, more than can be dealt within “comments”.
      Briefly, the fact that Paul gives us seemingly contradictory advise suggests that this isn’t a one size fits all situation, we as the church need to carefully discern what the boundaries are. I think that historically we have erred too often on the side of overly quick judgment and exclusion, rather than loving patience and persistence.
      Issues of church discipline are, and rightly should be, tough decisions. It seems to me, we ought to always wrestle and struggle with these decisions.
      If you are researching church discipline because you have a decision to make, God bless you and God be with you.
      Thanks for reading and commenting.

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  7. rose Says:

    I know this is right, but if one cannot reconcile, should one just do it through prayer. I still pray for that person, but no matter what I have tried, it does not work and only causes me great sadness when I am confronted with another affront.

    • Nancy Says:

      It is really difficult sometimes, isn’t it? It seems that sometimes all we can do is our part and then hope and pray that God is at work even if we don’t see it. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.

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  9. Mark Says:

    This scripture begins ‘If another member of the Church’. So we are probably only talking about minor differences. Therefore Nancy has a good point. And this argument cannot be countered with scriptures that are really aimed at more serious evil. The oppressors of the defenseless are not members of the Church. Therefore it is permissible for Christians to take up the sword for the defense of the faith, self and the victims of evil people. Thus there is no contradiction, just a need to read carefully. Also there were those who refused Jesus. So treating them as a Gentile can still mean leaving an offer of reconciliation and praying for them but generally avoiding contact. Sometimes not making contact is the best solution. Remember also ‘the wolves within.’ How do we deal with those we suspect?

  10. Bob Says:

    You make some wonderful points that I have recently contemplated myself. To add to your points, I would say:
    – It is beautiful to notice these 3 verses are sandwiched between the parable of the lost sheep (which is so amazing once you start to see yourself as the one sheep and not the 99), and the parable of the unmerciful servant (which the church should heed lest they actually be seen as the more powerful, unmerciful servant).
    – Notice the use of “you” throughout Matt 18:15-17. Even in the Greek, it is used in the singular tense. So when it says, “let such a one be to YOU as a Gentile and a tax collector”, it is a grammatical stretch to say the entire church body should look condescendingly upon (as the Jews did to such types in those days) the sinful BROTHER, I don’t read it that way and think it dangerous to do so.
    – One point to add to Christ’s treatment of the Gentile, He only told two individuals that we know of that they had Great Faith; both were Gentiles. Oh, and Matthew was a tax collector (this is the only gospel where these verses are discussed, and throughout Matthew in ch9 and ch11, we see a beautiful commentary regarding the tax collector and sinner – Christ came for the sinner, not the righteous, he came for the sick (the lost sheep), not the healthy (the 99), and Christ wants us to know He desires mercy, not sacrifice).
    – One last point (it’s longer, so please stay with me), Christ follows up v17 with v18 saying, “whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you loosen on earth will be loosed in heaven”. This is why seeing this as authority to excommunicate is extremely dangerous here…however, we are swept away from going there by watching Peter’s immediate response where he sees these verses ultimately as an instruction to forgive. Why is this significant, because it was just 2 chapters back, in Matt 16, that Peter, when asked who he thought Jesus was, says he believed Jesus was the Christ, son of the Living God. Peter – the first professing Christian! Christ gives him the keys of heaven, offers to build the church upon him, and says to Peter, “whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you loosen on earth will be loosed in heaven”. (A side note that is just my humble opinion, I can see where all professing Christians are given the keys and told the same thing at the moment of their heartfelt professing of who Christ is to them). Peter, who now has had time to contemplate, or even had asked Christ on the side what that meant, now immediately questions Christ in such a way that he seems to be concerned with forgiving even an habitual sinners, is 7 times forgiving enough? Christ basically tells him, if you are keeping count, that shows more of what your heart is about than the “offender’s”. And this is where He gives us the parable of the unmerciful servant.
    – Compare that to 1 Cor 5 and 2 Cor 2. You noted some concern that there seems to be a contradiction in God’s inerrant Word…I think I see where it might reconcile. In 1 Cor 5 v1, Paul is troubled that there is a member with a “sin rap sheet” that includes something detestable in both the OT & NT, and even detestable among the pagans. In v2, however, Paul displays his deeper concern that the church leadership is actually proud to have this member in their congregation (maybe someone famous or powerful?). Paul is disgusted with their pride and in v13, tells them to expel the member. Jump to 2 Cor 2 and we see Paul is following up on his earlier letter explaining himself. 1 Cor was written in a time of great distress and anguish. In 2 Cor 2 v5, Paul says the sinner didn’t cause him this distress, but it should have (and apparently did) cause the church leaders distress. Jumping to v9, Paul confesses he asked them to expel the brother as a TEST to know whether they would be obedient. For obedience trumps the pride they were feeling back in 1 Cor 5. Instead, Paul now BEGS them to forgive, love, and comfort him. For love trumps obedience (and Christ desires mercy, not sacrifice). And in v10, he says “anyone whom you forgive, I also forgive…for your sake in the presence of Christ”. In other words, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you loosen on earth will be loosed in heaven.
    – The message in Matthew 18 as well as 1 Cor 5 is really, like the rest of the bible, about FORGIVENESS. The Bible drips with forgiveness, there is no contradiction, not even here.

  11. Frank Says:

    Hello Ms Nancy. I was blessed to ‘stumble :-)’ upon an older post in a search today “Treat Them Like Gentiles and Tax Collectors”- I was considering what i believe to be an errant way in which some folks i’ve met/loved combine and perhaps confuse the heart of this particular scripture w/ the Lord’s teaching when sending out the !2 in instructing them on whom and what town to ‘shake the dust from their feet’- seemingly so very different teachings to me and a source of some frustration when bandied about interchangeably. /end rant/released and grateful:-)/

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